Have you ever experienced a challenge that made your stomach shake? Like having to work on a big project for promotion, looking forward to the birth of a first child, or making a presentation for the final value in front of a lecturer "killer"? Can you imagine what you felt at that time? Are your hands wet with sweat? Your heart beats fast? You are nervous. This is called stress.
What is stress?
Stress is a process that is felt and responded to by humans about an event. This response can be 'challenging' or 'harmful'.
Maybe you usually know stress as a bad thing; especially men, because men tend to think that acknowledging what they feel is something that is not masculine, according to Terrence Real, the author of I Don't Want to Talk About It: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression. However, stress is a normal thing felt by every human being and stress itself is actually divided into two, distress (negative stress) and eustress (positive stress).
What is positive eustress?
The fundamental difference from eustress and distress itself is from how you treat events that happen to you. If you accept it with a feeling of heaviness, fear, a feeling of wanting to run away, then you may experience distress. The wisest thing you can do is to face the problem directly to the point or "run away" and look for things that can keep you away from sources of stress.
But, if you accept it without fear, and you become motivated, feel your life is full of challenges that you have to solve like playing video games, that's eustress.
What are the characteristics of eustress?
You need to know some of the eustress characteristics so that you better understand them by example your daily conditions. Following are the characteristics of eustress:
- Motivate yourself
- Makes you feel moved
- Increase your performance at work
- Usually happens only briefly
- Is a way to deal with stress itself
Eustress makes you feel you have to work on that big project seriously, earn money for the birth of your first child with passion, or prepare your presentation carefully.
Apart from the above, there are more examples of conditions that cause eustress, namely:
- Start work in a new place
- Buy a house
- Try a new hobby
Bad stress can be changed to good stress
The key is to feel that you are a champion in video games; You have to feel that you "can", and see that from everything you are experiencing now there will definitely be a lesson that you will get for a better future. By changing your outlook in a more positive direction, it is hoped that you can also fight your fear of being challenged.
What do you do? Now you already know the difference, right? Never forget the limits of your life. Keep thinking positively, but stay alert to the environment. Give yourself a small 'gift' that you usually ignore; get enough sleep, healthy food, communicate a lot with loved ones. Undoubtedly, your life will also be happier.
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