Although one third of the world's total population is introverted, introversion may be one of the personality characteristics that most often invite misunderstandings.
Introverts are often labeled as loners, awkward, hate crowds and crowds, to the point of being called "ansos". This problem stems from differences that are too simple but the contrast between extroversion and introversion, creates a stigma for both.
"In fact, the differences between these two personality characteristics are far more complex than just the shy and the existent," according to Sophia Dembling, author of The Introvert's Way: Living a Quiet Life in a Noisy World, reported by The Huffington Post.
The difference between introverts and extroverts is rooted in Jung's psychology, which sees extroverts as people who are naturally oriented to the outside world, while introverts focus more on self-orientation.
Probably, the most appropriate description to explain the introversion departs from Jung's idea that introverts get their energy from deep stimulation, from solitude and inner calm, and not from external factors. Meanwhile, extroverts get energy from social situations through interaction with people.
Below are 5 false assumptions about introverts - along with the reasons that support them.
1. All introverts are shy - and all shy are introverts
False. We are often confused with the terms 'shy' and 'introvert' which are commonly used interchangeably - but in fact, these two traits are completely different.
Shy is the behavior, psychological characteristics obtained from the learning process; fear of negative judgment, the influence of discomfort and nervousness in social situations that require involvement in interaction. Whereas introversion is a innate psychological trait; someone who chooses minimal calm and environmental stimulation.
There are many extroverts who are shy and introverted who are confident. Many introverts are actually not shy; they may feel confident and get along easily with people around, but simply, they only need more time alone to balance the energy used during interaction.
Just as shy extroverts are, they are comfortable and easy to get along with people, but may be a bit withdrawn and uncomfortable in groups.
Introversion is motivation; how much you want and need to be involved in a particular social interaction.
2. Introverts are arrogant "socials"
Although generally introverts need - and enjoy - more solitude than extroverted people, the assumption that introverts are 'Ansos' or antisocial people is not true at all. They only enjoy social interaction in a different way than most people.
Many false labels are intended for introverts - awkward and judgmental for example - because they tend to sit still so they tend to look arrogant or uncaring. In fact, introverts do not feel the need to speak if it is not necessary. Sometimes, they prefer to pay attention to the people around them or get lost in their own minds. Maybe, other people interpret this attitude as a boring person, even though according to introverts, the act of observing and paying attention to these people is fun.
Introverts tend to interact with one person at a time. Instead of being arrogant or cold, introverts generally like other people, but are more appreciative of time together, and are concerned with quality over the quantity of relationships. He prefers to devote all his energy and attention to 1-2 friends who are very close rather than making big gangs or adding many new friends whose status is just an ordinary acquaintance. They are good and very good listeners in maintaining long-term friendly relationships.
3. Introverts are not good leaders or master speakers
Bil Gates, Abraham Lincoln, Gandhi, and many other important world figures including introverts. Many introverts enjoy and work very well when leading others, speaking in public, and being the center of attention.
When becoming a public speaker, an introvert focuses on full preparation and thinks about all aspects in detail before starting to do it, making them good and eloquent speakers.
Furthermore, a 2012 study by Corinne Bendersky and Neha Shah published in the Academy of Management journal, introverts worked very well in group projects.
Social capabilities and introversion are not really related. The characteristics of one's introversion can actually contribute to success, because introverts are usually more thorough and organized in conducting research, reading, planning things, and other tasks that require concentration and calm.
4. Introverts are smarter or more creative than extroverts
Many of the world's art workers and scientists - Albert Einstein, Marcel Proust, and Charles Darwin, for example - are thought to be introverted people. According to Jonathan Rauch, author of The Atlantic, introverts are considered a group of people who are "smarter, reflecting on themselves, more independent, their heads and hearts more balanced, civilized, and more sensitive". But in reality, it is important to understand that the introverted characteristics that you have do not automatically make you smarter or innovative from birth. To achieve this, persistent effort and effort is needed.
Does not rule out the possibility that many extroverts out there are very intelligent and creative; usually, brilliant ideas occur when someone is in a personal zone and in a more reflective mindset, or mindset like introverts.
Without extroverts and introverts, nothing can be real. On the one hand, there are groups of people who think of all the details and on the other hand there is a group of people who are willing and have the ability to make that thought a reality.
5. Introverted nature can be cured
If you are an introvert, you may be used to feeling not understood by others and your actions are often misunderstood. Introverted children often receive criticism from the surroundings to be more active and talk more at school, or try to mingle with other peers.
Unlike the shy and antisocial nature, which is a psychological characteristic influenced by external factors, introversion is a biological condition caused by over-sensitivity to dopamine; that is, when introverts receive too much external stimulation such as socializing, their energy (physical and mental) will be depleted.
You can't change the characteristics of this one, like fixing your weight or haircut. Some of these are intrinsic elements of yourself.
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