When your child starts developing various physical, mental, and emotional skills, he will grow more confident. At this stage, he will begin to understand self-concept, that he is himself, with his own feelings and thoughts. Your child will begin to separate himself from you and do something in his own way.
When will the separation and independence of the child begin to be built?
Individuality does not occur overnight. It takes time for your child to develop his independence. Stepping on the age of 6-7 months, your child will realize that you and him are two different individuals and you can leave it alone.
When he believes that you will still be there to support him, your child will be able to continue to develop himself and build his identity. At preschool age, the self-confidence of a passionate child will cause a problem that is wanting to do everything in his own way, and this is the root of tantrum temper.
How does my child develop a sense of separation and independence?
At preschool, your child will "fight" for independence. He will walk away from you to explore the surrounding environment when you and your little one are playing outside, and he will continue to test to the extent that he can get away from doing things without your supervision, such as scribbling walls, even if you forbid them. "I can do it myself" is a general rejection response that your little one makes when you try to help him.
31 - 36 months
The phase of separation anxiety, aka not wanting to part with their parents, will disappear on its own, especially when your child starts at the age of 3 years. But don't worry if occasional recurrence episodes occur. The child's growth period will be fulfilled by separation: the first day of entering school, for example. Helping children to overcome separation will make separation easier.
Your child needs a guarantee of love and full support so that he is sure to step freely, explore with his world. With love and support from you, he will build confidence to start independently. He also needs freedom to test the limits of his ability, then provide a safe home environment. Instead of continuing to forbid your child from reasoning not to touch sharp objects, keep these dangerous objects out of their reach.
Get a sense of independence in children by giving choices and teaching responsibility for their choices. Allowing him to choose the type of clothes he will wear, what snacks he wants to eat, or what weekend activities he wants to do, will build your child's self-concept and train him to think for himself. Eating alone without being fed or reading practice alone will familiarize your child to help himself.
But being independent does not mean that your child no longer needs your love and attention. The attitude of the staff might be reduced, but he still needs your attention. Give your child the opportunity to do things his way, but don't "throw him out" when he asks for your help. Your continuous support will continue to play an important role in his life.
As you get older, your child will be more stable with his identity and range of abilities. Further developments include the ability to prepare his own food, make new friends, and go to school.
When should I worry?
It is normal for preschoolers to experience separation anxiety and do not want to stay away from you, but if you see anxiety symptoms that get worse, your child cries out if you stay, or he really doesn't want to get out of You, discuss with your doctor.