As a single dad, it will be difficult to balance the life of the office by taking care of the house alone. Without the support of a partner to share the burden of responsibility or make a decision, you must provide more support for children while you yourself may feel alone.
You may also worry about the lack of a female figure for your child. If you are too tired or busy to emotionally support your child, or discipline them, behavioral problems may arise.
Here are some suggestions that you as a single dad can successfully raise your baby and also have free time for yourself.
1. Manage household finances
Learn how to make a monthly financial budget. Know when your salary and other income will be disbursed and note the dates when your household bills - school tuition fees, electricity and water bills, children's pocket money - maturity so that you can prepare funds in advance. Don't forget to also make long-term financial planning, such as your child's tuition and retirement.
If possible, do your best effort to increase your money supply channels, such as long-term investments or small businesses (selling via the internet, for example) next to your office work.
2. Use reinforcements
All single parents need help. No exception, fathers are known as can-and-know-all figures. It's satisfying to be able to master everything alone, but there's no harm in turning to help to support you. Help can be someone to look after children while you work or only someone you can talk to when you feel overwhelmed.
Girls, in particular, need to feel the presence of other women to help them with a number of things; there are a number of topics they will feel uncomfortable having to discuss with you, such as menstruation or sexual relations. Ask for help from your grandmother, aunt, or sister's cousin to help you both solve your child's problems.
If there is no female figure in the family, you can ask for help with the figure of the woman around you who has a strong, confident, and independent personality. You could ask for help from your child's teacher, female coworkers in the office, or next-door neighbor's mother, or one of the friends of her mother's child.
Every woman can provide assistance as long as your daughter feels comfortable chatting with them, and you are sure that these people will be good role models for her to grow up.
3. Create and maintain daily routines
Living as a single father among busy office work, taking care of children, and maintaining a home environment to keep it clean and safe is an easy task. Some people get frustrated because they are not very familiar with the washing-up task. If family finances make it possible, hire a child caregiver or household assistant to help take care of the house. However, if you want to save money, one key: dividing time.
Make a regular daily and weekly schedule - breakfast time, lunch hour, when to pick up children, sleep at night, when to spend monthly - and obey, so that your child knows and understands what he has to do every day. A consistent routine will help your child feel safer and help you be more organized.
4. Stay disciplined
Children will develop well when they know and understand what behaviors are expected of them by other people, especially their parents, and which rules they must obey.
If you divorce, work with your ex to find out and make good disciplinary rules and methods for your child. If your child is under the supervision of others, explain to them about your expectations about the way they discipline their child. Consider reevaluating certain limits, for example when watching a child's tv when he or she is able to show more responsibility.
Dissatisfaction and craving for children are only temporary, but the values that you have grown since they were kids with discipline will last until they grow up.
5. Spend time together
Even though dirty piles of laundry and pring call, take a moment to play together, read them bedtime stories, go to the mall, or just watch a movie at home. And most importantly, focus on the relationship and love of you and your child as a family.
But don't forget to set aside time for yourself to just relax or drink coffee with other adults, or or you will become irritable when faced with children because they are overwhelmed by stress. So, leave your child for a while to play at your grandmother's or aunt's house, and go watch the latest movie!
6. Open with your child
It cannot be denied, your child will start asking lots of questions about changes in his family, or about his mother's whereabouts. Answer your child's questions honestly, using simple sentences that are appropriate for their age. Make sure that your child gets the help and support he needs to deal with difficult emotions.
When your child has a problem, you can't just tell him what they should do; You must listen to your child's explanation, and offer suggestions. Let him try to think of your suggestions to make the best decision. Keep communication between family members open; your children will need to know that they can 'run' to their father to ask for help and advice without rejection and judgment.
7. Don't make your friends confide in
Living alone without a partner, you sometimes feel tempted to rely too much on your child for comfort, companion, or sympathy. But children do not have the ability, emotional capacity, or life experience to act as a substitute adult partner.
Dad still acts as father. That is, no matter how heavy the divorce or separation you experience, you must remain a figure of a firm head but still full of love for your baby, invite them to play, and also provide time and various facilities for them.
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