Tantrums are emotional outbursts, which are usually characterized by stubbornness, crying, screaming, screaming, insubordination, or anger. When a child is tantrum, you may become frustrated and confused to deal with it. Especially when children cry to scream loudly
Tantrum is actually part of normal child development. The tantrum child is actually trying to show that he is upset. Usually tantrums occur when children are tired, hungry, uncomfortable, or because they cannot get something they want.
Generally, tantrum will occur in the second year of a child's life, when language skills begin to develop. Because toddlers cannot say what they want, feel, or need, frustrating experiences can cause children to get tantrums or go berserk. However, as language skills increase, tantrums tend to decrease.
Various benefits of tantrum children
Even though it is very tiring to face a tantrum child, tantrum actually has benefits as well. How did it happen? Here are some important reasons why tantrum is actually a good thing.
1. Better to say than no
Crying is one form of emotion that children show during tantrums. By crying, your child will let go of feeling upset, angry, or frustrated. After your child cries or whines, their mood tends to improve.
2. Helping your child learn
Tantrum children are struggling and expressing their frustration, this will help them to control themselves so that they can learn something new like learning to work together, communicate, and overcome negative emotions.
Over time, children will understand that tantrum is not the right way to attract parents' attention or to impose their own will.
3. Bring children and parents closer
When children tantrum, let them go through the turmoil of his feelings. Tantrum is part of the learning process of children to learn what vocabulary can make their needs fulfilled and which ones do not.
When your child is tantrum, you need to stay calm, don't talk too much, and offer a few convincing words and a warm hug. That way, your child will learn to accept your decision and feel closer to you afterwards.
4. Children learn about the limits of their behavior
Children can use tantrum as a weapon to get whatever they want. However, by being assertive even though the child is tantrum, the little one will learn that indeed there are boundaries of behavior (or demand) that the child must follow. Even though he is tantrum, if parents firmly reject things that have crossed the line, then they will not be followed.
When should I contact a doctor?
Tantrum is a behavior that generally stops itself as the child develops. However, if your child experiences some of the things below, you need to immediately consult a doctor.
- You often feel angry or out of control when faced with a child who is tantrum
- Your relationship with your child becomes out of harmony or not
- Tantrums become more frequent, intense, or last longer
- Your child often hurts himself or others
- Your child seems very unpleasant, has a lot of knees, and can hardly be invited to work together
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