Actually it's not difficult to discipline a child, because you have several advantages over your little one. First, you already understand that the conflict between you and your baby is sometimes inevitable, and you already know what problems and things that have the potential to trigger the conflict. Second, because you already know what will make your child angry, you can prepare a strategy to deal with it, even before the conflict occurs.
Use the guidelines below to help you reduce the temper tantrum from your child, both reducing the amount. Make sure whoever cares for your child also knows and follows the rules below correctly.
- When you ask your child to do something, use a friendly tone and voice and make the request like an invitation rather than an order, for example, "We make toys, let's go!" Don't forget to use the words "please" and "thank you."
- Don't overdo it when he says "no". Every child will experience a period where he likes to say "no", "no", or "no" to each of your requests or instructions. He will even refuse ice cream and cake even though he really wants it. What he really meant was, "I want to be a control holder, so I would say 'no' while thinking about the real answer." Instead of scolding him, it would be better if you answer the hidden challenge by repeating your request calmly and clearly. Don't law your child for saying "no".
- Set priorities. Your little one won't go berserk if you don't push it and make it forced to go berserk. So don't force him to do something little unless it involves something important. For example, if he can't sit still while driving in a car, you really need to force him to sit in the carseat even though he is fighting and screaming. But if he doesn't want to spend broccoli on his dinner plate, there are still other ways that can be taken besides forcing him and triggering tantrums. Your little one might be happy to say 'no' all day, but make sure you say 'no' only to things that really matter.
- Do not promise what is not there, and do not reward something that he should have done. Things like bathing, sleeping, brushing your teeth, or not running into the streets is something that is certain and cannot be negotiated. He is not worthy of receiving extra sweets or toys for doing this. Bribing him will only teach him to break the rules whenever you forget to give him what you promised when he was kind.
- Give him a choice if possible. Let him choose the pajamas he wants, which stories he wants to read, which toys he wants to play, and so on. If you give him the opportunity to make his own choices, he will be more obedient to the rules you make because he knows there are still things where he is in control.
- Anticipate situations that can trigger tantrums, and avoid as much as possible. If he always makes trouble while walking around the mall, it's better to leave him at home with his caregiver when you go shopping. If one of his playmates always seems to bother him and upset him, separate them for several days or weeks and see if their dynamics change after they are a few weeks older.
- Give appreciation for his kind attitude with praise and attention. When your child sits and plays quietly without causing a commotion, sit beside him and accompany him. For children, this is already a form of appreciation from you, which shows that you agree to the activities he does.
- Turn on your sense of humor. Don't laugh at your child when he is raging and screaming. But when he is calm, it's time you calm down and joke with friends or family to revive your mood after the tantrum episode.