It will be difficult to achieve career goals and life if you do everything alone. It takes several heads from various circles to contribute to achieving these goals. Here, the role of network connections is needed in your life.
However, for introverted people, getting to know other people who are not known has made them lazy, especially having to communicate to build connections. People who have introverted personalities, especially if they are shy, are sometimes labeled as people who do not like to hang out with new people and establish connections. But don't worry, if you are introverted, that does not mean you will continue to have difficulty establishing connections.
Here are ways that you can use to establish a connection:
1. Follow your instincts, be yourself
Basically, humans are social beings who need each other. According to experts, actually humans are not naturally shy, but there is something that happens to humans so that humans become unwilling to open themselves up. Sometimes, even for introverted people, if he hears that the introvert is inseparable from the word 'alone', his instincts as social beings will encourage the person to occasionally get out of his introverted nature.
Besides that, don't forget to be yourself. Sometimes, introverted people think that he should behave like someone who has an extrovert personality to build connections. Being yourself is the best, be yourself who is not explosive but sincere and humble in building connections. In other words, it's okay if it's a bit awkward, just don't apologize constantly about your awkwardness.
This seems trivial, maybe even people don't think about it anymore. Sometimes in an event, you are too busy thinking about how to open the conversation until you forget that you are walking with a sullen face. Serious, pouting, and angry facial expressions are things that look scary. People will be happier meeting people who smile while saying simple words like good morning, good food, and so on.
3. Start with small things and don't miss the opportunity to say hello
If you feel too intimidated to get acquainted with someone you really don't know, start building connections with people you already know, such as relatives or friends. Building a connection doesn't always have to start with someone you don't know at all. Another easy tip is to build a connection from your friends during school or college. Sealmamater friends are the golden target of establishing a connection. So, don't be afraid to contact your friends again while you are still studying, who knows they are part of your connection network and can work with you.
If you are also shy, attend events that are truly in accordance with your interests. With this, you can build a connection by expressing what you are interested in at the event. Building a connection is not by seeking common interests, but how you express your interests. If there is someone in the event that you really don't know wants to meet you, welcome the invitation. If you are in a "networking" session, ask the event organizer to help you introduce yourself.
Or maybe, invite your friend to go to the event, ask your friend to introduce you. Introduced easier than suddenly coming to an unknown person. What if nobody introduces you? Take a deep breath and strengthen your confidence. It's always better to try than to miss a chance.
Once you know the person's name, call the person by his nickname. Experts argue that people are happier when they hear their own name. So, in communicating, don't forget to call the person's name. Doing something like this will make the other person more comfortable, feels like you and your interlocutor know each other.
4. Stop apologizing
People who are introverted and awkward to socialize sometimes make a lot of apologies because according to them, getting a connection and talking to strangers is something that annoys others (because they themselves often feel disturbed when reprimanded by unknown people). In fact, netting connections is one part of building relationships. If you continue to apologize, it shows that you are not professional and lack confidence. Don't continue to apologize if you ask for help or ask your connection for advice. It could be that in the future, it is your connection that needs you.
5. Build two-way communication
It's far better to communicate two ways than other people lead communication and you react passively. If you lack confidence in spontaneity, here are tips that you can do:
- Prepare what you will talk about as an opening for communication. Also prepare answers that are likely to be asked by others, such as what your job is, what your interests are, and so on.
- Try writing your questions first. For the opening stage, your questions don't always have to be too difficult to answer, for example:
"What makes you interested in this field?"
"What is your hobby?"
"What do you dream about in your career going forward?"
The above questions may sound very frequently asked, but these questions can be a good start in opening up communication.
6. Be a good listener
Introverts are usually good listeners. Being a good listener is not an asset to stand out in public. However, this skill can leave a very strong impression on people when communicating. Listening in detail and asking questions that are difficult for the person to answer can help you build meaningful connections.
7. Don't forget to give praise
Every human being must feel happy when he hears something good that someone else told him. Give praise to the person you're talking to. But keep in mind, make sure that you sincerely praise your interlocutor and don't praise excessively. Think first, if you think you don't need to make compliments, then you don't need to force praise.
8. Don't give unsolicited advice
You can talk about various things with the person you're talking to, but avoid giving unsolicited advice. Unsolicited advice, such as:
- "You shouldn't work too much."
- "You shouldn't watch TV"
- "If I were you, I would ... ..."
Advice like this is far easier said than done. You have just built a relationship with the person you are talking to, it does not mean you interfere with their business.
9. Exchange business cards and don't forget to contact them again
Business cards must always be carried every time you connect. Business cards are the easiest thing to leave your name to the person you're talking to, so they always remember you. Exchanging business cards also builds your credibility. If you have promised to contact the other person again, don't forget to contact them again. Thus, you show that you hold what you promised, it will leave a good impression on the person you're talking to. If not, you can be labeled as someone who "talks about it."
10. Dare to take risks and don't take too much heart about rejection
In establishing a connection, rejection might occur. That is a common thing. So, don't take your heart too much. It is all part of the process. When you can overcome resistance, it will be easier for you to open a conversation with people you don't know. Take the risk to open a conversation, maybe the person sitting next to you is the introvert with you. In fact, maybe the person is a very pleasant person to talk to. You will never know if you don't try.
Remember, you are not the only one who is awkward to socialize
Keep in mind, that you are not the only person who is introverted wherever you are. It could be that the person sitting next to you or who is standing opposite you, is also feeling excited and confused about how to start a conversation. Instead of sitting still and finally boredom, it's better to try to open a conversation. Maybe you don't get a response, or the conversation isn't what you expected, but there's also the possibility that the conversation will be a pleasant conversation that you will miss if you don't try it.
If you never want to try to open yourself, then you will never be able to connect. If you feel you are more than an introvert, and socializing makes you feel panic or anxious, come to the therapist to help you understand the cause and get a solution.
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