Who is not familiar with the Indonesian national hero, R.A. Kartini? His figure is well known, but unfortunately girls and young women sometimes find it difficult to model R. A. Kartini in daily life.
In fact, R. A. Kartini has provided a very good example of how every woman must behave in a society: opinionated, resilient, and caring. Especially in a society that adheres to a patriarchal culture, where men are often considered to have higher rights and position than women. Inevitably, young women who will grow up become women who still have to continue the struggle of R. A. Kartini in advancing women's emancipation.
For that, as a parent you need to prepare and educate your young women to become strong and courageous in line with the times. Here are five important points that you need to cultivate so that your young women can emulate R. A. Kartini and other tough women.
1. Teach young women to deal with stress
You certainly still remember, being a teenager is not easy. There are various challenges and sources of stress that must be faced everyday. If you are not trained early, your young women will be overwhelmed by stress in the future so that they are not mentally strong enough.
So, the thing you need to do is provide it with various ways to manage stress healthily. For example, rather than scolding a child when he is having a lot of thoughts, approach the child and ask to talk carefully about the problem that abuses him. Listen to the complaints without judging or looking for child mistakes. Entertain yourself with words that motivate and give hope.
Then invite your teen to find a solution or channel their emotions by exercising, pursue their hobbies such as music, writing, and others. Show that stress is a normal part of life. Stress is not always an enemy to be feared. That way, if your teenager faces a big problem one day, he will face it with courage like R. A. Kartini who is unafraid to overcome many challenges in her life.
2. Ask his opinion
When your young women grow up, usually the child's identity begins to form. Well, show him that his thoughts and opinions about trivial matters to serious ones are very important for you. Encourage children to dare to express their opinions and talk about what they believe is in their minds.
Through this open communication you are increasing your child's self-esteem and confidence. The most important thing is to listen, respond, and appreciate your daughter's opinion. In addition, try once in a while to invite him to discuss issues and events around the world, especially regarding his views on the roles of men and women in society.
That way you can find out what's on his mind about it and respond to it with relevant things while incorporating the values of empowerment and gender equality in your conversation.
Don't even dampen the child's voice for example by saying, "Ah, you little kid knows what?"
3. Encourage children to pursue their dreams
Encourage your young women to continue to develop and explore themselves and their abilities. Not to forget, invite children to try other things out of their habit so that their minds are always open. Let him take risks and follow his impulses.
For example your daughter is very fond of fiddling with machines and eager to learn engineering in college. Support this goal so that he grows into a confident and talented woman like R. A. Kartini who is truly convinced that she is able to establish a school for all children, especially girls.
4. It's impossible to please everyone
Don't forget, remind your child that his life is not to please everyone. They do not have to say yes and obey everyone. They have the right to be themselves and have the right to make decisions for themselves, even though not everyone likes that decision.
As long as the decision taken is right and does not harm yourself and others, he has the right to make that decision. Teach children that they need to listen to their feelings and instincts before deciding and agreeing to anything.
5. Be a good example
The best way to educate your young women into being strong and strong is by giving them a direct example. If you are not a role model for him, then all the words you throw up to foam are meaningless.
Children tend to imitate what their parents do. Your behavior and your partner in responding and doing various things will become a strong guideline in the child's brain. Therefore, you also have to instill positive and empowering values in yourself.
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