Not only are mothers experiencing baby blues, in fact many fathers also experience it. A new study published in the Journal Pediatric found that a father can also experience postpartum distress syndrome, commonly known as the baby blues, in the early weeks of the birth of a baby.
What is the baby blues?
Baby blues are changes in your mood and emotions, which occur after giving birth. Symptoms that arise when the mother experiences the baby blues include easy sadness, loss of appetite, weak helplessness, and guilt appears. This is all caused by hormonal changes.
Baby blues in women, usually associated with hormonal changes after she gives birth, and usually lasts not long, only about a few weeks early in pregnancy.
If the stress experienced occurs for a long time and is increasingly dangerous, it is feared to be a symptom of postpartum depression. At this stage of depression, there needs to be further action by a doctor or psychologist.
Baby blues that happened to daddy
The baby blues that occur to fathers are different from the baby blues that occur due to hormonal changes in women. Men who become fathers certainly do not experience the phase of pregnancy or childbirth. Well, what happens here is a change in inner turmoil, where it is common and can change the state of a father.
There are many factors that can contribute to a man's depression when he is a father. The following are the 3 most common things that usually happen:
- Not ready to be a father . Usually, this is triggered by concerns about new responsibilities. For those of you who experience, maybe you will think that you have a living dependency, namely family. In addition, many fathers think that this is the end of your moment of freedom as yourself.
- Concerns about money. It's natural and common for men who are worried about financial problems they will face. Moreover, if you are the only one who works to make money.
- Fear of new roles. Here, you might be worried and wonder, would you be a good father or not? Especially if you have bad memories in childhood about your father's figure, or you want to be a different parent for your child later.
In addition to the three things that are feared by the new father figure above, a study has looked at 5000 families related to the baby blues syndrome. Of the 5,000 people, 10% of new fathers are said to have a higher baby blues level than other postpartum syndromes.
This important discovery, must be known to you new parents. Why is that? Isn't this normal? Yes, it is natural, but there is a big impact that must be addressed by experts. Father can't just ignore this baby blues syndrome.
This syndrome can affect the happiness and harmony of a new family, because you will find it difficult to support your wife (who will also experience hormonal changes). Then, the father also cannot enjoy his role with the newborn baby. Obviously, if this is left too long, it can become a more dangerous postpartum syndrome.
What can you do to overcome the baby blues for your father?
1. Give understanding to each other
If your partner experiences baby blues syndrome like this, it's important to identify it first. Try to overcome the problem by talking from heart to heart. Listen to your partner empathetically to find out the anxiety and fear of your partner. As much as possible, put yourself in his position so that you can understand your partner well. Try to encourage your partner to share, and be a person who can be relied on in this moment of silence.
2. Stay away from negative thoughts and people
Not everyone can understand this baby blues feeling. Try communicating with people who have an open and positive mind. Certainly, there are those who underestimate your condition, thus adding to depression. Okay, stay away from them for a while.
It is also important to always ask for advice and opinions from friends, relatives, or even parents themselves who might have been in the same conditions. As much as possible don't let yourself be alone. When you are alone, negative thoughts easily haunt you. When you are with other people, your mind will be distracted on other things.
3. Consult a doctor and expert
If this happens for a long time and you cannot complete it yourself, it is strongly recommended to contact a doctor, psychologist or therapist. Chances are you will get antidepressant drugs or are advised to take counseling. You need not be embarrassed to seek help for your mental problems. Like physical illness, psychiatric problems are natural. Finding help is an important step so that you can return to functioning properly in your family and live happily.
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